Human Psychology (Blame Game) Why do we blame others?

(Blame Game) Why do we blame others?

You know it's 2023. And at the beginning of this year, the technology showed us that the era of Artificial Intelligence is starting now.

In the combined excellence of science and technology, humans are intoxicated with plans to build a habitation on Mars. There is God's perfect creation Human and the Human brain is still presenting itself to us with new information.

This small attempt of mine today is to present some data analysis of the human brain to the readers. With this article today, I am going to start a series through which I will show you a picture of Human Psychology in each episode. Let's get started then. My topic today:

Blame Game

According to the #Wiktionary, “the Blame Game is a situation in which people attempt to blame others rather than trying to resolve a problem.”

Let’s go for example, “Ratul and Pratul are two brothers. One afternoon while playing cricket in the backyard, Ratul's batting shot, Pratul's bowling ball hit the window glass of their house. The glass of the window broke with a loud sound. Their mother almost ran out of the room, raising a tone of discipline from inside the house. Meanwhile, seeing his mother, Ratul threw the bat from his hand and pointed his finger at Pratul and started saying 'Mother Pratul has broken the glass of the window.' On the other hand, Pratul also raised a similar sound that made the right.” 

We often do this. If the exam is bad, we hide by blaming the sir. The father started saying to the mother, "What are you doing? You can't even take care of the children's education all day."

While, if two individuals share the same objective, they should share equal responsibility. However, our conclusions aren't necessarily rational. Despite claims to the contrary, people still consider the result when deciding whether or not to hold someone accountable for their actions.

 

Here are #5reasonsweplaytheBlameGame in light of this background.

1. Blame is a powerful defensive strategy. Whatever you call it—projection, denial, or displacement—blame protects your self-esteem by shielding you from becoming aware of your shortcomings.
2. When we're in attack mode, we employ blame as a tool. Blame is an attempt to harm our relationships and falls under the category of negative conflict resolution techniques.
3. We're not particularly good at figuring out what drives other people or even our behaviour. Our propensity to form erroneous conclusions can skew the attributions we make, whether to chance or talent. We also struggle to determine whether an activity is blameworthy based on its goal or its result.
4. It's simpler to point the finger at someone else than to take accountability. Recognizing your part in a negative circumstance requires less effort than admitting you were at fault and making changes to ensure it doesn't happen again.
5. Folks lie. Even when you are aware that you are at fault, it is rather simple to just lie and assign blame. You may believe that no one will notice that you made the error, so you'll just blame someone else who isn't present (and hope that person never finds out).

 

We are doing that from the very beginning, and we learnt to do that from the very childhood. 

There are two forms of blame: perpetually blaming others while abdicating all accountability, and perpetually blaming oneself.

 

Blaming others:

When we place responsibility for choices and decisions that are genuinely our own, we are saying that someone else is to blame.

In blame systems, someone is always doing something to us, and we disassociate ourselves from any accountability for speaking out for our needs, refusing requests, or seeking out other options.

Usually, the person who assigns blame to others adopts the victim persona.

The person assumes that the other will be aware of their requirements and act accordingly. There is a complete denial of accountability or communication, and the one laying the blame frequently tries to take the high ground (Fallacy of Fairness).

This only applies in egregious and obvious circumstances, though. But to some extent, we may all use this at times.

Since we are the #protagonist of our own narrative, it is simple to overestimate the influence that others have on us.

 

Why we accuse others:

We frequently place blame on others because we are unaware of our own ability to influence events. Complaining that someone else must be to blame for our bad feelings may also be an act of familiarity and laziness.

It might be crucial to take into account the function of transference for some of us "#blamers."

Transference is the process by which we carry over #negativeorpositiveaspects of past relationships into the relationships we are in now.

All of us have needs, but for the majority of us, one or more of these needs may have never been satisfied. If our caregivers failed to satisfy our requirements for love, attention, and care, we would be forced to spend the rest of our lives seeking out new caregivers.

But in reality, we are merely travelling in circles the entire time we pass along unmet wants to others. We are defenceless, exposed, and unable to regulate our own happiness as long as we place blame on or look to others to satisfy our desires.

It is definitely worth changing because it makes us irrational and adds conflict as the cherry on top.

 

Remember one thing before blaming others,

 

“When you point a finger at someone in blame, three fingers are pointing back at you.”

 

Considering ourselves to be accountable

Those who place all the blame on themselves are the exact opposite of those who place the blame on others. This is possible as a result of our assumption of responsibility for everything and everyone.

These folks feel responsible for everyone and consider everything as their responsibility. They hold themselves accountable for other people's unhappiness.

The tendency to blame ourselves for other people's misfortunes and our own mistakes stems in part from habit and in part from our false ideas.

The individual who assigns blame feels empowered to handle every situation. They are unaware that it is not their responsibility.

Between accepting responsibility and placing the blame on us, there is a distinction. #Blaming ourselves for things we can't control because we have poor self-perceptions or assume too much responsibility is an attack on our #selfesteem.

 

#Acceptingresponsibility does not entail that we are accountable for the actions of others.

It is a type of self-aggrandizement to hold another person responsible for our troubles. It indicates that we believe we have a greater influence on their lives than they do.

Even if we can help someone, neither we nor they are accountable for our happiness.

Remember, “If anyone doesn't brush his teeth for four days, whoever around him will know this matter from the bad smell from his mouth. But the person wouldn't able to sense the smell in spite of having a nose just above the mouth. And, it is human nature.”  

 

So, think before you do. That's it for now. 

 

Stay with me till next. 

#Staywellkeepwell.

Thank you.

MD Zonaid Hossain

Sources: #wicktionary #google #dictionarycambridge #humanpsychology #humanbehavior 

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